Where I am in my life today has been determined by the choices I have made up to this point. I’ve made some bad choices. I’ve made a few good choices.
Where you are in your life today has been largely determined by the choices that you have made. Bad choices and bad decisions may have landed you in a place that you never would have imagined. How do I know? It happened to me.
I can vividly remember a conversation I had with my older sister when I was in my thirties. She is a wonderful, caring woman. She was a Christian when I had no idea what it really meant.
At that point in my life, the choices I had been making had me convinced that I needed to leave my wife and family. I had decided that I was absolutely unhappy and totally inconsolable. This conversation took place during the hour long drive to visit another sister and her family. I was in crisis mode and my family was intervening.
I explained to her how unhappy I was in my marriage. I had convinced myself that I was unhappy because of my wife. The truth was that I was involved in an inappropriate relationship. I now know, because of depression, medication and alcoholism, that I was taking ridiculous risks and telling myself lies to condoned my behavior. I was allowing myself to compromise everything I knew to be true and honorable. I was living a life of lies and deceit. I had convinced myself that someone else was at fault for my own issues and sins.
My sister’s desire was to help me see the truth. The truth was that I was headed to a bad place. Nothing good could come from a man leaving his family. She wanted me to see the truth that would set me free.
My sister made a comment that, at the time, I managed to convince myself was not true.
She said, “Honey, you choose to be happy or unhappy every day of your life.”
I get it now. I know that this is true. But I would not allow myself to get it then. Believing those lies did cost me my family and the relationships I know now that I held most dear.
Do you agree that you choose to be happy every day? Do you think that alcohol and depression medication can cause one to take greater risks?