Are you waiting for someone to give you permission to succeed. Have you ever felt the need to explain yourself to people? It’s as if you’re seeking permission, or approval from others before pursuing that a dream or new idea.
Can I tell you a secret? You already have permission to succeed.
This morning I had an idea about a new project and I thought, “Oh, let me run it by ‘Joe’ and make sure it fits.” Joe and I are involved in some related activities, and we sometimes talk about what we’re doing. Then I thought, “Wait a second, fits with what?” It was as if I felt I were seeking permission to strike out and make something happen. The truth is, while he may be interested in my idea, I don’t need his permission to get started.
We live in such a “rules driven” culture that we’ve been trained to hesitate before taking action. We’ve been taught to “ask before we act.” It starts in school, where we needed to ask permission to use the bathroom or sharpen a pencil. As teens we had to ask permission to use the car, and today, as employees we ask permission to eat lunch and to take vacation. These are all important parts of being an agreeable member of our society, but we’re still seeking permission.
Some reasons why we ask permission
Safety – When we’re young, we ask someone before going outside to play. It’s important that someone be accountable for us, and someone know where we are at all times. As we get older, we seek permission to take the car on a date, and let someone know when we’ll return.
Courtesy – As we get older, we ask permission as a means of informing others where we are and what we’re up. It’s a matter of being considerate. It’s also important that our spouses are well-informed and onboard if our ideas have financial ramifications. We also need them to be supporting our dreams and ideas. Spouses, mentors and well-meaning family and friends all care about us and want the best for us. They can keep us from running off, unprepared on that missions trip to the congo or jumping into that business scam that we’re all ready to “invest” in.
Job Security - We are required to tell the boss when we are going to be sick, when we’re eating lunch and when we need a vacation. If the boss doesn’t know where we are, he may just stop sending a check.
To Impress – Sometimes, we want to share our dreams and ideas with specific people to show that we’re not slackers. Maybe we need their okay because we need them to know that we also have dreams and ideas or because they have impressed us with all of their successes and we feel we need to impress them. Let me stop you here. If you want to really impress them, get started first. Get your idea or dream bearing fruit by your actions and your efforts, then tell them about it. Note – once you have succeeded, you may no longer care that they are impressed.
Caution – Do not confuse wise, godly counsel with asking permission. Counsel is not asking permission. Seeking counsel is collecting information to help you make a decision. Permission is asking someone to make the decision for you.
The next time you feel the need to ask permission to succeed, stop and ask yourself if receiving permission is really going to benefit the process? Will you get there quicker if someone says it’s okay? Probably not. The permission I seek is from my Father. I believe He is the One that gives us our dreams and ideas.
I am certain that we have His permission to succeed.
Question – when do you ask permission or what are some other reasons we ask for permission first?